Meet Louis Luba, a therapist who specializes in sex therapy as well as relationships, gender identity, trauma counseling, and more. Louis creates an open, judgment-free environment to explore intimacy, vulnerability, and the deeper emotional layers beneath patients’ relational lives.
Specialty & Approach To Therapy
Louis works with individuals, couples, and groups, supporting people as they reconnect, reflect, and explore what connection and trust can look like. His areas of expertise include sex therapy, relationship and couples counseling, and helping those in polyamorous partnerships navigate boundaries, jealousy, communication, and the logistics of building healthy, consensual frameworks.
“My approach is genuine, respectful, and human-to-human. I don’t see myself as someone who has all the answers or leads the way. I’m a steady teammate, here to walk beside you as you explore, question, and grow.”
Sessions with Louis aren’t about “fixing” problems; they’re opportunities to get curious, deepen understanding of self and others, and foster self-acceptance, clarity, and freedom. “The most meaningful shifts happen not when someone is forced, but when they feel safe enough to look inward with curiosity instead of fear,” he says.
He aims to create an environment where everyone feels equally heard and understood, even in moments of conflict or discomfort. His role is to offer structure, perspective, and validation without prescribing what “should” be done.
Advice To Those Seeking Therapy
Louis encourages anyone considering therapy to give themselves credit for taking the first step:
“Start by giving yourself credit for considering it. That alone is a brave, hopeful act.” He reminds new clients that therapy isn’t about being “broken,” but about giving yourself space to feel, reflect, and grow with support. “You don’t need to have everything figured out before you begin. You can come in unsure, overwhelmed, numb, curious, or all of the above. That’s more than enough.”
When it comes to choosing a provider, Louis believes therapy works best when it’s collaborative. He wants clients to know they are allowed to have needs, preferences, and boundaries. Naming these is an important part of building trust. Rather than feeling that a therapist holds all the answers, Louis encourages people to look for someone who genuinely welcomes their input and creates a partnership.
He also suggests being open about your hopes for the process, even if they feel vague at first. Whether you want to feel less stuck, gain confidence, or simply have a safe place to breathe, your own version of progress matters.
Above all, Louis reminds clients that therapy is a relationship built on mutual respect, trust, and honesty. “You are an equal part of it,” he notes, and if something feels off or you feel misunderstood, bringing it up is an opportunity to strengthen communication and self-advocacy skills that therapy itself can help you build.
Finding Balance Through Self-Care
For Louis, routine is key to unwinding and feeling grounded at the end of the day. Depending on how he feels, most evenings begin with movement — either a run at the gym or a jog outdoors. Afterward, he enjoys cooking a nourishing meal, often featuring steamed vegetables or curry tofu (his latest recurring craving), before relaxing on the roof with his partner to enjoy the evening light and catch up on their favorite reality TV. Currently, they’re watching Love Island USA. “No shame!” Louis jokes.
Outside of this evening ritual, Louis finds restoration through journaling, listening to new psychological theory audiobooks, playing old GameCube games with close friends, and lifting heavy weights to energizing music. Whether it’s the comfort of a steady routine or the novelty of a new interest, these practices help him reset and reconnect so he can show up with presence and purpose for himself and others.
Interested in learning more or finding a provider who fits your needs? Reach out to Rivia Mind or explore our team of clinicians. You don’t have to do it alone — thoughtful, collaborative care is just a conversation away.
