For therapist Yuying “Ethel” Deng, LMSW, therapy is about creating space to both reflect and look ahead with intention. Her work is rooted in understanding how past experiences influence the present, and in helping people decide which habits to keep and which to leave behind.
This week’s spotlight explores her approach to care, perspective on the healing process, and the simple joys that help her recharge.
Specialty & Approach To Therapy
“Trauma care often means noticing patterns, coping styles, or unspoken rules that have been passed down through families, sometimes without anyone even realizing it,” Ethel explains. “In therapy, we take time to understand how those experiences might be showing up now, whether in relationships, identity, or day-to-day struggles. It’s not about blaming the past, but making room to reflect, feel, and choose what to carry forward.”
Her style is person-centered, culturally affirming, and solution-focused. “That means I see you not as a set of symptoms or labels, but as a whole person shaped by your culture, family, community, and lived experiences.” By drawing from approaches like Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and other evidence-based practices, she helps patients balance deeper emotional exploration with functional skills. “I aim to create a space where all aspects of your identity are seen, respected, and integrated into the healing process, while also focusing on your strengths and what’s working, so we can take practical steps together.”
Advice To Those Seeking Therapy
Ethel acknowledges the vulnerability of beginning treatment. “Be open with yourself. Try to listen to what you need and give yourself permission to explore those needs without judgment.” She highlights the importance of curiosity and self-compassion at the start, noting that it’s not only acceptable but encouraged to ask questions. This, she emphasizes, is your time — and sessions should feel safe while giving you room to be brave.
When it comes to choosing a therapist, she underscores the value of fit. Connection matters. Just like any meaningful relationship, it’s essential to feel a sense of trust and understanding with your provider. “We’re human too,” she says. “Finding the right match can make all the difference in your therapeutic journey.”
Finding Balance Through Self-Care
For Ethel, balance comes from the small joys that brighten her day. “I have a super cute cat (not kidding, I’ll gladly show you pictures!) who helps me stay grounded. I spend time cuddling and playing with him when I need a sensory reset.” Music is another outlet, and she finds peace in singing and strumming her guitar. Lately, she’s also set herself a new goal: to dedicate more time to reading — excited to get lost in fresh stories and ideas.
Starting therapy can feel intimidating, but Ethel’s approach combines cultural sensitivity, practical skills, and deep respect for each person’s story. With providers like Ethel, patients can expect a space that honors identity, builds trust, and makes room for growth. Reach out to begin your journey today.
